So then, here I am again. I was on here before saying that I was doing water changes with r/o water to soften the water for my rams. Someone told me I should get a tds meter if I am messing with r/o or my tank might crash. I didn't get a tds meter yet but is it the same as total hardness or total alkalinity? My test kit measures those. But now for my questions. My apons were doing really well for a while but now they seem to be dieing. They are just turning clear and starting to disintegrate. Could this be the beginning of my tank "crashing"? Also my rams have bred like clockwork every week and a half to two weeks for 3 times and this time the female had all of the signs of being ready to lay eggs again and her ovipositer was way out and then today I get home from work and no eggs and the ovipositer is retracting again but still a little bit out. Could this be due to low tds as well? Otherwise the fish seem to be acting normal. Or do you think maybe the ovipositer will come back out again soon? I'm so lost here, please help me.