First, you won't find a 3mm LED that can handle that power unless that is how you are calling one of the surface mount LEDs.
Second, the complication with LEDs, is that they are rated in Lumens/watt. This optical efficiency is highly variable. sometimes by a factor of 4.
In truth, if it is this difficult early on, I'd highly suggest that you either get a kit, clone what someone else has done, or simply buy a fixture that is proven to work for your needs. There was a time when building your own LED light was highly advantageous because of cost. That isn't true any more. Commercial units can be had for pretty decent prices now.