Just a note, Fishman...REALLY look at FishLore's stocking advice. Most of them say the same thing we do. True, they don't particularly care for AqAdvisor 'cuz it can be a but off about some things, but for the most part AqAdvisor is a great TOOL. Notice the way I say "tool"? That's because you shouldn't rely solely on it. Just because it *says* an angelfish would be fine in a 20gal doesn't necessarily mean that a 20gal is the best possible home for an angelfish (unless it's a temporary breeding setup). I like FishLore and will take some of my stocking questions there to see what kind of different answers I can get, but if you were to put up some of the questions you've put up here, I would be willing to bet you'd get the same exact (or close enough) answers there as you have here.
I, for one, don't particularly care if I hurt someone's feelings with my advice. You are providing care for a living creature that depends on you for EVERYTHING and as such should attempt to provide the very best care for that creature, not what you want or what you think looks cool or whatever. To give you a non-fish analogy...my dog is dog-reactive and very territorial. I would love to have another dog. However, I know that if I was to get another dog, I would have to be VERY careful about what I got (age, sex, breed, etc) because of what my dog reacts to. Granted, I would LOVE to go rescue an adult border collie or greyhound, but I know I can't because Cash wouldn't tolerate a new big dog. Not only that, but I live on 1/3 of an acre with a 3.5' fence that I'm extremely lucky my dog has no desire to jump, even though he could without much effort (he's a 65lbs aussie/st bernard mix and can flat jump into the back of my 4X4 pickup with the tailgate up). Same thing applies for fish...just because you want it does not mean it will work with your setup or with the fish you have right now, and you should recognize that and want what is best for the fish.